If you DON’T believe in God this WILL NOT matter. If you DO believe in God this WILL matter. Your idea, your sister’s idea, your friend’s idea, your cousin’s idea, your mother’s idea, society’s idea, even the church’s idea! So many ideas about sex! But there’s only one idea that really matters and that’s God’s idea.
So what is God’s idea or perspective about sex? Well, I will tell you. Sex is good and a gift from God to marriage between a man and a woman.
When Solomon and his wife were making love God appeared at their bedside and said “Imbibe deeply O Lovers, Imbibe.” That means to soak it up! Dr. Ed Wheat, a Christian physician says, “You have God’s permission to enjoy sex within your marriage. God invented it. He thought it up to begin with. You can learn to enjoy it, and you can develop a thrilling happy marriage.” God designed sexual intimacy to be a divine privilege and a magnificent experience between a husband and wife. Fulfilling sexual intimacy will ignite and add life to a marriage the way nothing else can. There you have it!
Body Beautiful, Body Ugly, Body Beautiful
Your husband didn’t stop desiring you, you stopped seeing yourself as desirable! Changes started happening to your body, you started putting on a little weight, a little more plumpness here and little more sagging there, and you started feeling some kinda way about it. You started projecting your own feelings and attitudes about your body onto your husband and started withdrawing from him, rejecting his advances, turning your back and wrapping the covers tighter and tighter around you creating your own personal cocoon. Next thing you know your husband is looking at other women or watching erotic stuff on his computer.
Your feelings are hurt and you show it with anger, irritation, sarcasm, body language and pure disinterest. I know it’s hard when you think your body isn’t perfect by your standards. Jada Pinkett Smith even has body issues!
There is something you can do about it: Make a vow to be as healthy as you can be. That’s a great place to start. You know what else you can do? Be willing to look yourself dead in the face and body and say, “I still love and accept you no matter what. You are beautiful, desirable, and sexy.” It will make all the difference in the world! Then apologize to your husband!
Do you want more tools for your toolbox? Check out my article “7 Values Everyone Woman Should Own” and let me know what you think in the comment section. Happy reading!